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anonymous
writes:Hi Im 25 year old female married and have two beautiful children.Ive just found out that im pregant with our third,and my husband wants me to have an abortion. I want this baby but scared this baby may destroyed out marrige.I dont know what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2008): I feel you. I am 27 and pregnant. My husband talked of sbortion, but I refused. If he was do opposed he could have gotten a vasectomy BEFORE this was an issue. He is afraid . That is all. Ruining your marriage out of fear based anger would be fully on his part. He will still have to pay for ssid child. Hopefully he will get past this stupidity. My husband did, but also got the vasectomy at 13 weeks. I'm still angry with him. He has done serious damage to our marriage with his request to abort. I'm pro choice, bit we ate married and abortion is not an eraser. We made our bed. I'm still angry with him and am not sure if I want him around for the birth. I'm due in January.
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (19 August 2008):
If YOU don't want to do it, then don't. I'll be honest, I had an abortion and I really didn't want to, but I mainly did it to make the guy happy and because I figured it was for the best (which it might have been, who knows). Anyhow, I would say if you are the one that wants to do it, then do it. If you don't, then don't or even if you're not sure--then don't. It really is something serious and can really have an effect on you. Massive guilt and what if's. You be the one to decide, it's your body the baby is in and just as much yours as it is his. I don't think it will destroy your marriage. And in the end, you two will probably be happy that you didn't do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2008): Since women bare the responsiblity for the continuation of the human race and that it takes two to make a baby the question is moot.
The life is in your body not his.
He has nothing to say about it.
He was around to get you this way so he had ether better get himself fixed which is easier then a woman doing so and then he won't have to worry about it again.
A woman is the center of any family, the men are to help support, protect, and care for such.
You get the abortion so he has to give up a part of him, ask him which hand or foot he would like to have removed and then the two of you will be equal.
Otherwise tell him to shut up and deal with his choice.
The simple fact is he did it and now he wants you to fix what he did with you having to suffer for his mistake.
He never heard of a rubber?
What about the pill?
Get his tubes cut and no more sperm and he won't have to worry about it again.
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