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writes:Ok so my wife of 13 years decided that she wanted to try out to be a professional football cheerleader (or NHL or NBA). Although I want to be supportive of this, and have been so far, I am not 100% comfortable with this. Any thoughts, guys and girls? Thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I cheered both in college and then for the Oakland Raiders, for a few years. It's not a year round gig. It requires serious dedication to cheer pro. It's a very fun experience, IMHO. If it's the potential fraternization with the players that concerns you, be aware that is heavily discouraged and is grounds for dismissal from the squad, on most teams. Which is not to say it doesn't happen ever, but you better not get caught. Some teams are better than others, naturally. There are rules, there are standards to be met. There's alot of travel obligations as well. Many team-related functions and appearances go along with the deal.I wouldn't suggest undertaking the effort lightly, you must be committed to it.
Many are married or have long term relationships, a few are single. If it helps: most, but not all, of the players were very decent, respectable men to work with having wives/families or G/fs. It's not one big non-stop frat. party. Good luck and your support of her endeavor is a needful boost for her is she makes the squad! It's not easily achieved so she could use the support. So why not cheer her on!
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reader, brklynsis81 +, writes (19 May 2010):
 I think your discomfort is coming from jealousy and fear. It sounds like maybe she has been making some changes, and you want to be supportive as long as the changes she is making don't include changing out you!
I think the way you are feeling is pretty normal. It's really hard when you see someone you've been with for so long take up new hobbies, especially when you aren't really included in them. I think your best bet is to be honest with her about how you feel. I think if you approach it from the point of view of: "I want to be supportive of you, but the thought of you out there in front of people, making new friends, trying new things, makes me feel insecure" she will be understanding.
Good luck!
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