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30-35,
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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and i love him to death..however when recently i decided that i needed a break just to enjoy the single life for awhile and to give the relationship some breathing room (my physical attraction to him had died off somewhat)..in between i happened to meet a guy who i am not emotionally attracted to, (hes conceited, has a child @ 23 and is a little too sappy for my taste) but I'm insanely physically attracted to him..my ex knows about him and everything including the fact that we haven't had sex..i want so badly to be back with my ex who feels the same, but i can't get these thoughts about having sex with the new guy out of my head! i want to have sex with him so badly but feel it might be wrong or hurtful to my ex...why am i feeling for both guys!? i need to make a decision and soon..:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2008): Don't do it. The grass is always greener on the other side. Unless you call it quits with your current bf, stay away from Mr. Temptation. He is obviously bad news. He is only after one thing. He might be good in bed or he might not. Don't risk it. It's not worth it.
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reader, The Listener +, writes (16 August 2008):
 You've been with your boyfriend/ex for 3 years, which shows that you obviously like each other. Your attraction to this other guy may be, as you have mentioned, because your opinion of your boyfriend's appearance has gone down, i.e you aren't physically attracted to him as much. However, you have to decide what it is you want. It might just be that you need to refresh things in your relationship or find some way of feeling attracted to your ex again. If you find that you just don't feel that way about him then it may be wise to end it officially, because a relationship needs to have a physical attraction in it. Saying this, you may find that it is just a temporary thing and after you've got it out of your system you'll feel more attracted to him again. It is your decision, but I would think carefully about it.
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