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anonymous
writes:im in love with my second cousin and he feels the same we have both had bad relationships i have 7 children and my cousin has 1 i tried telling my eldest daughter last night and now she isnt speakn to me my family is old fashiond im now scared to tell any 1 else and also scared im goin to lose my bf we r the best thing thats happend to each other 4 along time but with the reaction of my daughter where do we go from here ? i already have 2 cousins who go with there second cousins and they seem to have been excepted but im so scared of being left with no 1 because my dad says its insest what my cousins our doin. do we tell our familys and risk losing one another?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionid lyk to say thank you to al who answered my question you gave me the courage to tell people & im no longer botherd of how other people feel we are happy & thats al that matters to us now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): You are SECOND cousins. No country in the world, and no major religion, would stop you marrying. First cousin relationships are problematic, and there are some good reasons. In your case I don't see the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2008): First, your dad is ignorant of the facts. Incest it most definitely is not. Maybe your daughter has been talking to her grandad and believes what he says? Take a look at http://www.cousincouples.com
I absolutely believe you when you say you're the best thing that's ever happened to one another and believe me, I know what it feels like.
Your family's prejudices are their problem, not yours. Your happiness comes first, not theirs.
The only problem I can possibly see apart from all that is the fact you've got 7 children and he's only got 1. It's a brave and special man that takes on another man's children as his own unless they've all grown and fled the nest. Kids can be a pain in the arse and step children in particular are very adept at playing one of you against the other, and have been the primary cause of probably millions of relationships falling apart at the seams.
I wish you the best of luck
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