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30-35,
*he Boxer
writes:I'm in love with my friends girlfriend. The thing is it has been going on for a while before now. I actually was going to ask her out before but he beat me to it. I talk to this girl all the time and it just feels right when I'm around her. I've been fighting these feelings for almost a year now but they don't go away. Some of my friends have talked to her and the general impression they got from it was that if it wasnt for her current relationship she would be with me. The worst part about all of this is that my friend has been a real jerk to her and alot of his friends lately and its getting worse. What should I do? Should I wait it out, and see if they break up, or should I go to her and tell her I want to be with her. The last thing I want to do is make it awkward between us, shes way too much of a special person in my life. And im pretty sure her boyfriend doesnt like me too much anyway. I really want her to be happy, but I want to be happy too. Am I just being selfish?
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (23 June 2007):
Girls like attention. And there is a possibility she is just toying with you. But I may just be bitter.
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reader, i need help fast  +, writes (23 June 2007):
TELL HER HOW U FEEL! u never no , she might b in love with u but doesnt think u feel the same. by the sounds of it ur if things get akward between u 2 then there dosnt seem to be that great a loss! he sounds like a idiot! just go with ur gut instinct and dont sit around predicting what might happen.
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reader, The Boxer +, writes (23 June 2007):
The Boxer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your advice. Well I used to think of him as a friend but i was actually told by the girl that he doesnt really like me and border line hates me so i have no allegiance to him really. I don't know its all a big mess.
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reader, GreenTea +, writes (23 June 2007):
I was in the same situation mate.I decided to go for her. And you know what? People always believe the person their kissing. Im confused by your title but if he is your friend. You better believe he wont be it for long if you do go after her. If he is more of an "expendable" friend then the choice is yours. Be careful when "rescuing" someone from a relationship. If they haven't gotten in out of it themselves then your chance of getting them to make a change is small.
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