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writes:ok heres my problem i am 16 and in love with a guy but not just any guy my 18 year old cousin now we havent seen each other in 4 years but the last time we saw each other we mad love weve made love before and its all ways been special to me but i dont no about him but now i hear hes getting engaged i feel heart broken do i tell him how i feel or just let him gte married to some girl he met in england i realy need help dont judge me please
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reader, helplessgirl08 +, writes (8 January 2009):
helplessgirl08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks so much for your advice it realy help but i think i might wait a bit before confronting him thanks thow
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reader, alexus516  +, writes (5 January 2009):
 I do not judge people for who they love. Love can come in many ways, you just happen to be in love with your cousin. Tell him how you feel, yes. Do not let your fear of being rejected stop you from letting someone you love know that you TRULY love them. If he rejects, then ask him how he felt about you when you both had sex.
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reader, Abrasive_Reality +, writes (5 January 2009):
One cannot chose who they love, it just happens. For you my dear, you have fallen for your first cousin and although something like that is highly frowned upon where I am from, I commend you for having the courage and strength to put fourth such an abrupt foot and express how it is you truly feel.
I think its important for you to evaluate your situation like this; you love him and seem like you'd stop everything to be with him, but do you know if he really loves you the same way? I don't think this may be the case, especially since he is engaged to another woman.
There may have been a connection between you two while you were making love, but he is selfish for not being able to talk with you about this so you knew what was really going on.
I think you should put all your emotions aside and just talk to him about the way you feel. Maybe you will feel silly putting yourself out there like that, but speaking up and communication are key to letting others know how you feel, otherwise you will go a lifetime wondering.
However, you are still very young and maybe it is too soon for you to truly understand your feelings, you would have only been 12 when the two of you made love, do you think it would be the same?
Sometimes it takes seeing someone or maybe even making love again for you to know your true feelings, however as extreme as this may be, it could be what you need to do..... although, i still suggest speaking with him about the way you feel.
Good Luck!
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