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writes:hi i am 14 years old and my boyfriend is 16... i really like him. we have been dating for a year now and i feel like i love him!!! he says he really really loves me. i've met his parents and he's met mine. but we are in a long distance relationship. he's always angry at me because i question his love and it seems he really does love me but i dont really know.is it possible for us to be in love at this age???in love and need help!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2007): I also believe that you can be in love when you are young. However, it doesn't sound like you really love your bf because you're questioning his feelings. Sometimes the best relationships can grow out of infatuation!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2007): I would say yes. I don't see why you have to be a certain age to fall in love. Sometimes people can meet when they're say 15, fall in love and they end up getting married and living happily ever after a few years down the line. However, you say you question his love. That sounds like a trust issue. I think you need to trust him more, maybe that's the key thing in a relationship. How can you really love him if you can't trust him to be faithful or whatever it is. Hope this helped, I understand how you're feeling.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (12 May 2007):
 anythin is possible chick, theres only one problem....the long-distance bit. i always question my boyfriends love for me when inside i know he loves me. you just want reasurrance once in a while. explain that to him, he should understand. the fact that you both have met either parents, and it is possible it will last, but it could also not last which will cause incredible heart ache. a year is a long time for a 14 year old..keep it goin hun, i hope i helped x x x
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reader, gf123 +, writes (12 May 2007):
 At 14 I believe it is possible to have strong feelings for someone but I doubt whether you can be in love. You will be better equipped to answer that yourself when you have more life experience, which at 14 you have little of. It's lovely that you've found someone you care about but you are young and at this point in your life you should be having fun and should be careful not to become dependant on this boy. I really don't think that at 14, you should let this relationship control the way you live your life which it may be in danger of doing.
As for the long distance, it is possible, in my experience, to make this work. The key is to have faith and trust. Getting angry at someone for something you're worried about them doing but that they haven't yet done is stressful for both of you. The best way to handle this is to talk about your fears rationally and calmly without making any accusations.
Please, please, please do not let this rule your life at such a young age. Life is made for living and eventually, you'll meet someone you do really love. Don't rush into it, you'll know when it happens.
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