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writes:Hi there. I have a problem that most of you have already come across. I think I am in love with my best friend. I don't want to be, but I can't stop thinking about her. It also limits me from the things I can do with her as the best friend, because I get embarrassed. Another problem is that she has a boyfriend already, it hurts a great deal to see them together. I would like to be able to get over her, without having to tell her or without having to stop being around her. Please don't say that it is impossible to get over someone without having to take time away from them, I believe I can do it, I just need some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2010): keith2020 is absolutely right. Fair of heart never won fair lady. Put it out there and see what she says. I was "friends" with a girl in high school and didn't tell her how I felt until quite a time later and she told me that she was crazy about me then. I reminded her she had a boyfriend at the time, and she told me, "So what, I liked you more"... Funny stuff. Anyway, put it out there and see what happens. She will still let you be her friend, just be prepared for you to not want to be hers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): Mmm. Quite a poser! Does she appear in love with her boyfriend? If so, perhaps you should forget about her for now. If not, tell her how you feel. She will either say she likes you also, or that she doesn't. This will not affect the friendship as she will be flattered. She may even say she likes you but will stay with her boyfriend. Still no problem. What could be a problem is that if you do eventually have a relationship and then fall out, it could ruin your friendship. Either way, I feel you should tell her. A complex one.
I will say this.......
"Faint heart never won fair lady."
Good luck.
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