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writes:In recent years I've been finding myself almost constantly "in the mood" for no reason and without a proper cause.I've woken up horny and went to bed horny, and I've tried every solution I can think of, masturbation of various kinds, having sex with my girlfriend, even warching porn. But none of it really clears it away, is there a logical explanation for all of this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2020): Same age, same horny all the time. Guys sizing me up all the time, the good looking ones -- I'm doing the same. Whenever I get inappropriate thoughts I just relive the worst sex I ever had. The thought goes away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2020): You may have a mild sex-addiction; but you don't fuel the fire with porn, or keep trying to satisfy a greedy-appetite.
Sometimes it seems we always send people running to a therapist; or assume there might be something really serious going on. We can't jump to wild-conclusions, or always consider the extremes. Doctors don't just arbitrarily write prescriptions, or guess a diagnosis without even seeing you. They need to do an extensive examination, or run some tests. All we're getting here anecdotal testimony, from a healthy young-female! You assume there is something wrong, because it seems so extreme. Covid-19 confinement is taking its toll on everybody, and many are doing introspection for the first-time. It gets scary, and it's mostly paranoia.
You are a healthy vibrant young-woman, with some pretty powerful hormones.
Some problems require a very simple and unremarkable solution. Practice self-control, and learn to govern your impulses. Even if you went into therapy, the objective will be to do just that. Sometimes you need help from a qualified and licensed-professional; and other times it's just a matter of mind over matter.
Though you may have a powerful desire, you can't always get what you want. You can't feed an addiction, and think that will make them go-away. You take charge, and decide you will feed a ravenous-appetite only as much as will satisfy it, not gorge yourself. If you keep scratching an itch or an itchy-wound; you will cause rawness and more irritation. You have to train the mind to calm-down, without responding to the impulse. It will trigger a demand-response by nagging at your mind, or causing relentless cravings; but the harder you fight them, the milder the nagging-cravings get. If mommy says "no," throwing a tantrum and kicking and screaming didn't satisfy your demands. If your mind says "no," expect it to throw a tantrum, and do some kicking and screaming. The answer is still "NO!"
It's like using the same restraint and mind-control principles as wanting something so badly that you would be tempted to break the law to get it; but you let self-control prevail over the over-powering thoughts that would make you want to steal, or commit a crime.
Learn to distract yourself with other things that are self-rewarding. Give-up the porn for awhile, or completely. Too much masturbation and self-manipulation can be harmful to sensitive vaginal-tissue. It also tends to make you do it more frequently than necessary. It's just force of habit. Then it becomes a difficult habit to reverse.
Learn a safe-word, when your thoughts are invaded with sex. Something unsexy or gross! If you are a person of faith, and you were taught to pray; don't turn your nose-up about it, try it! Rolling your eyes when someone mentions "faith and worship" could be passing-up the very thing that helps. In spite of the horrific-experiences you may have endured with self-righteous bible-thumping fundamentalist narrow-minded "religious-people;" who drive people away from God!!! Leave no stone unturned! That's because experimenting with different methods and solutions leads to healthy-distraction; and the necessary self-discipline becomes healing in and of itself. People gaff and scoff at the mention of God, or anything related; but sometimes He's just waiting there until we're ready. He may even intervene, just because you gave it a thought! I'm speaking from having a personal-experience and relationship with God, and without shame of it. I don't force anything, but I offer Him as a resource and cure; because I owe Him that! I love Him!
I've noticed that exercise and workouts tend to increase my sex-drive and testosterone-level; and it does tend to make my sexual-appetite go crazy. Sometimes just chilling and relaxing with a book, enjoying a hobby, or participating in sports-activities; gives us something different and pleasurable to do with our minds and bodies. Apart from being one-dimensional and/or single-minded. The body enjoys many pleasures aside from sexual.
Make a to-do list. Every-time you feel edgy and twitchy; get busy doing something constructive. Do it to completion, and then check it off the list. Add something else to the list in its place. Too much of anything is unhealthy. Having a one-track mind leads to either intolerable-boredom, or self-destruction. Write-down your feelings in a journal. Get it all written-down and out of your system. Keep it private. Tear it out, and destroy it...then and there. Leave nothing for nosy prying-eyes!
Be in-charge of your thoughts, and in control of your body, don't be a slave to your impulses. You'll wind-up replacing one out-of-control habit with another. Don't worry, sweetheart. You've got this!
You're young and healthy, and it all tapers-off. Don't let it overwhelm you. If worse comes to worse, seek professional-counseling. You didn't mention anything extreme, and I don't think it will come to that. In time, I think nature will cure itself. You're at your sexual-peak!
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (20 July 2020):
 Hormones? You are probably at your most fertile right now and your body acts accordingly. If your hormones have shifted, you might see an increase or decrease in libido. It's kind of normal.
Porn, is not going to "help" either if you are looking to feel a little less horny.
I wouldn't call you a nympho, but you might be hyper aware of your overdrive in your libido, which makes you think of it more too, to in a sense by all YOUR focus on sexual gratification, you want MORE and you keep thinking about it.
Advice? Meditation and exercise. With more exercise you get your "happy rush" from that instead of from sex, sexual gratification. Meditation just helps you focus.
As for being horny... Yes, it's "normal" for most people at different stages in life.
If it truly interfere with your life or make you impulsive or sexually promiscuous (if you aren't now), go see your doctor.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (20 July 2020):
Hormones? You are probably at your most fertile right now and your body acts accordingly. If your hormones have shifted, you might see an increase or decrease in libido. It's kind of normal.
Porn, is not going to "help" either if you are looking to feel a little less horny.
I wouldn't call you a nympho, but you might be hyper aware of your overdrive in your libido, which makes you think of it more too, to in a sense by all YOUR focus on sexual gratification, you want MORE and you keep thinking about it.
Advice? Meditation and exercise. With more exercise you get your "happy rush" from that instead of from sex, sexual gratification. Meditation just helps you focus.
As for being horny... Yes, it's "normal" for most people at different stages in life.
If it truly interfere with your life or make you impulsive or sexually promiscuous (if you aren't now), go see your doctor.
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