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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 mths, we both had past relationships in which both of us were hurt by previous partners. Neither of us are dragging the past into this relationship, though I feel that I am giving more than receiving. For example, we are both affectionate to each other when we see each other, but sometimes he holds back. I am expressive to him and just being my self, walked into this with an open heart. I asked him to be expressive about his feelings to me but his reply was "being cautious". This makes me feel that at times he gets cold, and bothers me a lot. He says he wants to let things happen naturally, but we have passed the intimacy level and so I dont understand now about "his cautiousness". Should I move on if he can't be expressive so that I dont become a convenience? How long should I wait?
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reader, smailey2005  +, writes (7 June 2009):
I would give him a chance i mean 6 months is not a very long time for a guy to be full on head over heels in love withyou and if i were you i would make sure that he soley and truly 100% over his ex guys act all tough but if it was serious maybe he is not and that is why he is closed off bc those parts of his heart are not avaiable and ready for someone else.. he might not even know he is still feeling that so don't assume that he knows if that is the case but sit down with him and tell him how you feel and if he is still shut down i would move on there are bigger and better and more emotionally ready and mature guys out there for you :) good luck
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