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writes: I have been seeing a guy for 6 months behind his girlfriends back. He says he wants to be with me but wants to break up with his girlfriend without hurting her too much and without her finding out. She suspects something is going on and even came to my house to ask me. I told her nothing was going on and now i feel very upset with myself and guilty for lying to her. Should i tell her the truth even if i believe she may become violent with me? Help i dont know what to do for the best?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): What an asshole!!
I say you invite girlfriend over for lunch...have the cheating, selfish mate over and watch him fumble and squirm.
Tell him that you both deserve some answers.
Honesty is always the best policy.
It would have been honest (and the right thing to do) to tell the girlfriend yes and you were waiting for him to tell her.
It would have been even more of an honest thing to do 6 months ago when you would tell him to go take a flying woohoo at a doughnut; HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND ALREADY!!
Teach the loser a lesson.
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reader, pica +, writes (21 August 2006):
How do you know there's only the two of you? ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): Reverse the situation. You are his girlfriend and he's seeing somone else behind your back. Not nice is it?
If he wants to be with you he would have dumped his girlfriend already, he's just messing around with you and his girlfriend. But I wouldn't be suprised if his girlfriend was violent towards you. You did lie to her after all.
I think you should talk to her. Tell her what you've been doing and tell her sorry and then give that guy a good ol' smack. Maybe you two could be friends that is if she forgives you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): First of all her boyfriend, which is the same person you're seeing is an idiot. If I was right there, I would give a good slap to his head for being such a damnable coward.
Second, you've been seeing that guy for 6 months. Doesn't that make him a questionable person?
Third, he says he doesn't want to break her heart, hurt her 'too much'. [laughs evily] And uh, by lying to her and seeing someone else is going to lessen the hurt?
Riiiight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): Her "boyfriend" should be the one to tell the truth, but you should not have lied if you were confronted by her. Tell him he should tell her (but honestly, do you really want to be with a guy who could treat anyone like that?). How terrible the both of you are being to this poor girl. She deserves to know now since she wasn't told from the beginning. And why do you feel guilty to lying to her when she came to your house? Don't you understand that you've been lying to her since you started messing with *her* boyfriend? And to directly answer your last question, the best thing for you to do would be to leave this guy and this poor girl alone.
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