A
male
age
30-35,
*arko
writes:Help me please; I beg you anyone, I'm a controlling person but i don’t like it.I don't hit her and stuff I don’t do to much serious but we had an argument on it and I need to change I’m over protectiveBecause of past relationships not so trusting I always think she’s cheating on me I make a big deal about small thingsI tell her how to dress (which is so stupid but for some reason I’m protective over her body )A lot of stuff help me please before I lose her I want to change I need to Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): OK, you've identified the problem. You've recognized the likely immediate consequence -- you're going to lose her. And you understand that you need to change.
At the risk of sounding like an amateur shrink, you've got to get past the earlier relationship(s) that make you untrusting. Find a counsellor. If the community you live in has a free counselling service, use it. If you can afford to hire a professional, do so. Otherwise, confide in someone older that you trust -- a parent, an uncle, teacher, whomever. Talk the issue through with someone. Because you're quite right -- being controlling is bad news, and it simply isn't going to work for you, or for her.
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