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writes: I don't know what to do, have been cheating on my bf for a year. I love my bf of 6 yrs to bits but he is so cold and unloving towards me. We moved in together a year and a half ago and were happy but he is away alot with work. The guy I am cheating on him with is married and left his then pregnant wife for me. They have both been to the house and told my bf, which I have denied as I don't want to hurt him ! The guy I am cheating with adores me and has given up everything for me. I have given up my job and moved back with my mum for this guy, but I can't tell my bf it's over - Please help ??!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2007): yet another ''i love him and dont want to hurt him'' yet your still sleeping with another man behind his back. and also left a child without a father.
making excuse about how he was to you does you no favours and is just a poor attempt to convince yourself. if he was cold to you then you should talk to him, not go sleep with another man. now youve damaged not one but 2-3 lives and made it worse by lying about it.
do him a favour and just tell him the truth and walk away. your no good in relationships if your first reaction is to cheat rather than talk
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reader, Sally R. Cinnamon +, writes (28 November 2006):
 You make excuses for your cheating "my boyf is cold and unloving" and "he's away a lot with work." But these things are irrelevant. You make excuses for lying "I didn't want to hurt him" but really it doesn't excuse your actions. It is really hard ending a relationship, but those who do it honestly, justly, openly, with integrity are the ones who are really putting their ex-partners first. How can WE help you to tell your bf its over? BE A WOMAN AND JUST DO IT!
Well thats my little rant over. Sorry! These things are always so much simpler from the outside!!! It tough to break up, but thats just how it is. You clearly find it really hard to inflict pain, because you've got a big heart, but your good nature is misdirecting you. there are times that you cant avoid hurting someone, and being a decent person is all about how you do it. That old "be cruel to be kind" thing. And remember yourself in all this - it's causing YOU so much pain - be brave and get out of the mess!
-Sally
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reader, SexKitten69  +, writes (28 November 2006):
 HI, Trust me it's going to be hard to tell your boyfriend and even though it's probablly not what you want to hear you have to fess up!
The longer you leave this situation the more it's gunna hurt your b/f.
If you really loved your b/f you wouldn't have cheated and still wouldn't be, and there's no point in being in a relationship if your interested in someone else, what if the situation was the other way around? I think you would like to be told sooner rather than later just so that you could move on with your life?
I hope you manage to sort this situation out, you have to be strong and pluck up the courage to end it with your b/f.
Regards
xxxx
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reader, guylostinlove +, writes (28 November 2006):
Time to break it to your boyfriend.
Move on to another relationship. You are no longer in love with your boyfriend.
Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated or would've been honest from the start that you were no longer in love with him and break it up.
You're probably just clinging onto past parts of your relationship with him. Before all the cheating ever started.
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