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writes:My house is so chaotic, both of my parents are on the verge of divorce. It has put my siblings and I though emotional and mental stress. For some reason, I am finding it really hard to connect with my boyfriend of 3 years. He understands what I am going through but its hard for me to connect with him on a physical, emotional level. I am somewhat distant. I do not understand why I am distant help!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (2 January 2012):
 Have you always been one to hold things in? It's best to talk to someone about your current stressors. Is possible to talk about the stresses in your life with your boyfriend? Basically to vent to him.
How about talking to your mother about seeing a family counselor to cope with the divorce?
It's really hard seeing your parents divorce later in your life. That's all you've known, and their love for each other has grow before your eyes making them a role model couple. Now that it's over, it sort of makes you question your love life. How can love like that fall apart?? Do I really love my boyfriend?? You don't want to end up with the same fate as your parents. It really does you in.
What I learned, it's best to keep your family drama at home (unless of course you're seeing a counselor), leave it at the threshold. Get out of the house, away from the negativity, surround yourself with positivity. If you need to talk about it with friends who have gone thru something similar then limit talking about divorce for 30 minutes. Just to vent, get support, but not let it completely take you over.
When everything is finalized, I promise it gets better. You may not ever be able to accept it, but your mind eases when you see how happy they are living separate lives.
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