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22-25,
Devil Crazy
writes:Hi all,My mind have been in quite a whirl nowadays. I know it's kinda like V-day blues, I can't help but feel that I am fast getting left on the shelves. My friends are getting attached easily, and although I have had 2 relationships before, it left a sour taste in my mouth as they could not be sustained. I aim to get married by 30, which means I have 6 years left to achieve that goal...how do I increase my chances of achieving that?Currently I am trying hard to expand my social circle, through online portals as well as going out with new friends. However, it has frequently been the case of me fancying someone whom is attached or eyeing another guy, or the girls within my reach not really catching my eye. Another reason of me worrying is also due to the fact that I am going to graduate soon and enter the working world. While this means I have a firmer grip over my life, it also means that my free time is going to be affected. I feel it is possible to achieve a balance, but difficult to do so.Sorry for the disorganized post. My wish here is to seek advice on how best I can deal with this anxiety, as well as to meet my own target for marriage. I have never been one to play, 'cos seriousness is in my attitude.All replies are welcomed. Thanks in advance.Devil Crazy Reply to this Question |
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 February 2008):
 Graduate first and then get a job. Stop worrying. Go out and enjoy your single life , go sow your wild oats. You need to go through this phase first before you settle down or you will regret it.
Forget your marriage plans. You only put unnecessary pressures on yourself.
Relax and enjoy life as it comes.
If you are single, learn to enjoy your single life because when you are married, then you will know what single life is all about.
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reader, Annalisa  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 As you have had two failed relationships, you need to address the following issues:
Do you expect too much or too little from a relationship?
Do you go for guys on looks and then realise they're no good?
Are you hard to please- ie. is your attitude the reason your relationships failed?
Once you know where you went wrong, you'll know how to make the next relationship last! Being a career girl should not stop you dating, in fact, it'll give you confidence in yourself. It's normal and healthy for relationships to start with week-end dates. It'll help keep the required distance to let your feelings grow without the pressure of seeing each other all the time. Don't worry about being left out, you just haven't found your other half yet, but he'll come! Despite what you think, you're still young and anything can happen in 6 years! Look at me, I met the love of my life out of the blue, just because he'd missed his train. It was love at first sight and we were married within a year! I got married at 27, had my baby a year later, and my career is just taking off! I think the trick is to go with the flow, but learning as you go along, and never give up or panic.
God bless!
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