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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear Agony Aunts, I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and our sex life has always been just ok. My last relationship was fantastic in that department and I have a high sex drive (well, I don't think I do but my new boyfriend thinks I do because I want to do it every time I see himn, about thre times a week, which I don't think is alot at this early stage). I have noticed that when we have sex, I am the one initiating it, if I don't start it, then we just don't do it, and I am left lying in bed feeling unattractive. We get on very well outside the bedroom, and he is very loving and cuddling etc. I am 35, I'd like to get married, and have kids soon, and don't want to leave him just because of this, but I don't know what to do. Is there a way I can make him find me more attractive or is my fate to be in love with someone who doesn't fancy me? Does anyone know how I can make him fancy me more and come on to me? I look after myself and am very experimental (if only he would try it!) XX
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (4 January 2009):
 Talk to him. Come on now if he is the guy you want to possibly be the father of your children, then you better be able to communicate , right? :)
Tell him that you find him attractive that you want to jump his bones every time you see him, tell him that you feel he might not be as attracted to you.
Ask him what he REALLY likes, talk about fantasies and so forth. Be open, listen. Don't forget dudes are not mind readers, would be nice if they were but they aren't.. :)
Good luck,
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