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writes:This is not really a relationship question but it is something that I have been thinking about. The word people often use to describe me is sweet. I do not think I am too sweet however as I will sure take a stand on things if push comes to shove. There are times when I feel people treat me with disrespect and have even tried to do damage...in the work environment going behind my back to the boss and just generally things that make me cry into my pillow sometimes. I know everyone does sometimes but I am wondering if becoming more savvy..and being less of who I really am which is kind of open and caring is the only way to avoid these troubles in the future. Does anyone else have this problem, why can people be cruel to the gentle souls in the world and what can I do about this. This has happened a little too often in my past where people treat me roughly. I do not show it on the outside but it hurts a lot on the inside. Reply to this Question
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (13 June 2008):
 well i think you should think about the consequences before you open up, it will help alot because to be honest im like this too and i wonder if im getting used sometimes because of my caring nature. Unfortunately we were born good lol. If they want something you dont wanna give, or say, etc then speak your mind and say no. They would prolly say no if you wanted something, so take a stand. Im not saying you have to be nasty or mean but just let them know that you wont budge on a certain issue, problem etc. If you maintain this attitude then you can still be sweet but not taken advantage of so you completely benefit from this, the important thing is to worry about yourself because your an adult (im assuming) and this is your life too and by letting people take advantage of you, its taking control on your life.
take care & good luck
hope I helped you out=]
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