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writes: Hi, im a 40 yr old woman, have had a few long term relationships, and am in one at present for the last 2 yrs, but i never feel completely settled, i feel we're more friends than lovers. I have liked the guys and the guy im going out with now but have never experience the feeling of being in love or a relationship where my feelings for the other person have gotten stronger ie to love where i feel i want to spend the rest of my life with that person. And this is something i actually desire-i really would like to experience a fulfilling love feeling. Has anyone else felt like this?? Reply to this Question
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reader, jaynehaigh +, writes (27 November 2006):
This is a difficult one - why do you feel unfulfilled?
It sounds like you have a really good man in your life. People tend to strive for "the one". I'm not sure there is one. You have had a few relationships so you should know yourself by now that no-one is perfect. No one will ever be perfect.
I think (and I may be wrong) that you need to stop thinking of this man in your life as a friend and start thinking of him as a lover. Experiment with your sex life. Try dating each other again - bring some excitement into your life.
At the end of the day most relationships end up been a really deep friendship but with benefits.
If you love him, trust him and enjoy time that you spend with him I think you ARE in love. It's not all heat and passion.
Only you complete you - stop looking for someone else to do it for you.
Sorry if this sounds harsh but I wish you luck.
As always keep us informed. xx
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