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writes: is there a way to tell if ur hymen is broken already? i havent ever had sex but i ride horses (daily) and also run frequently is there a high chance it is? if so does that mean sex will be not hurt as much the first time?? cheers and merry christmas xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): thanks heaps, but im NOT planning to have sex anytime soon! i dont even have a boyfriend!! i was just curious thats all, thanks again and have a great christmas xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): I too rode horses, and no hymen, my first time at sex did not hurt at all...but why are you thinking of having sex when you are only 16? I am not going to preach to you about morals, because you have already made a concsious decision not to own them,
However, here is one very important consideration that you must make. Young women before the age of 21 who have sex are 80 times more likely to develop cervical cancer caused by a virus, you can get an injection for this, but it is still not a good idea to risk having sex for this very reason. I work with a 19 year old woman who was just diagonosed witwh cervical cancer and she has only had sex with two men in her life....not to mention the other std's that if left untreated can cause sterility in women or the HIV virus...are you sure you want to go down this path for a sex starved boy?
Wait until you are a little older and in a stable relationship with someone mature enough to handle it, and your body is fully developed as a woman...you may feel like you are already there but you are not, you are a child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): If you are terrified of sex hurting...then don't have it. It doesn't sound like you are totally convinced.
Just wait; don't give in to the pressures of being wanted by some young, lustful guy. Don't do it in hopes it will make you more mature or fit in with a crowd.
Don't do it to feel normal. Don't do it to feel loved.
You are a young woman and have such great worth and potential; you hold so much promise...you are a true and rare find in today's world...so many youth give into having sex with someone who is not their wife/husband and it leads to so much pain, sorrow, unhappiness, and sense of loss.
It is not worth it.
If he is not willing to wait to marry you; he isn't the one.
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reader, charmed4eva353 +, writes (22 December 2006):
 there is a chance but its not very high. having sex for the first time is bound to hurt a little if your not used to it. however if your hymen is broken it might not hurt as much on your first time it will just be a little uncomfortable.
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