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writes:Ive been friends with a boy since toddler group and playschool and then our first year at school ( year reception ) Then i hadnt seen him in about 7 years but when i started senior school in year seven he was there and we were automatically friends, Were in the same tutor group and i have fallen for him big time its now the end of year 8 and were going into year nine but i dont think i can hold my feelings back for him any longer, he told me that he loves me and i know he means it but he asked me if we get together and break up will it affect our friendship ? And i am worrying about the same thing What should i do ? Helpp ! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Those are just the chances you have to take in life and love. It may ruin the friendship, and yet it just make you that much closer. Go for it Sweet Pea. Love dosen't come around that often...take advantage of it, and go for it.
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reader, permenantlyconffussed!!  +, writes (7 July 2008):
If you really like each other what could go wrong?
If you are really good friends and you get together but break up it will be a bit awkward at first but youll get over it. Heaps of my friends have gone out with guys and split up with them and now they are really good friends. i think the only thing that could go wrong is that one of you still likes the other if you break up. one of my friends is in pieces over this guy she really likes who we've been friends with forever and she went out with but he doesnt like her back anymore. If you do like each other but dont go out that could probably effect your friendship aswell. Your friendship could become straineed from avoiding each other because it hurts to be around someone you really like that you cant do anything with. There would be tension you know?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Erm I always thought it would do. It did with my ex-girlfriend, and one of my best friends, being a girl, I refuse to go out with because I fear it would reck our friendship. Like you, we have known each other since were small.
Since there was a gap however, and you have only really known who he is now for 2 years, it could work. Friendship after relationships does vary greatly, but with the relationship you two have, it would probably happen.
I suggest you two chat about it. The only thing that would create that is because of either one of you two.
Personally I'd give it a go. I think since you both like (or love) each other already this has already affected your friendship. If you think about it...?! So therefore you may as well go for it and see where it goes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 July 2008): Very tough. You are both seem to really care for each other, and that's great, now, he has told you that he loves you, now it's time for you to tell him, you are both worrying that it will affect your friendship IF you break up, so why don't you make a pact/promise type thing, that no matter what happens you will always remain friends, things may be a bit awkward afterwards, but soon you will be good friends again, but hey, this is waay into the future, you shouldn't be worrying right now, just focus on the present, tell him your feelings and if he's up for it make the pact/promise thing
Good luck, hope everything turns out OK.
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