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writes:Hi im 17 years old.And i had sex with a 14 year old we both wanted it to happen but now i think im pregnant.my mother says we are cousins but we aren't blood related.And his mom wants us togeather.Im scared don't know what to do.And i don't want to have an abortion.I really dont want to give it up for adoption neither.So please help I really need some advice and fast!!! Thanks, Jessica
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2008): hi im also pregnant but in a different situation..but honestly,i think u should jus follow ur heart.if ur heart is wit him then so be it...be wit him...but if its not then just dont be with him.if ur not goin to b wit him but u want to keep ur baby thats just something u and him have 2 sit and talk about..i am against abortions and adoptions so personaly i dont think that should be an option when u say u and him both wanted the relations to happen..so just sit and think about wat i said..by the way im nessa!!!
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reader, baked  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 How can you be cousins, but not related? Anyway, at 14, he is way too young to understand the amount of responsibility.Needed to bring up and take care of a child, as he is a child, and isn't even legal. 14 sounds under age. Isn't that Child Abuse?At 17, why are you going with a child?
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reader, xylplxym +, writes (21 January 2008):
Okay firstly don't use the morning after pill ever if you are not okay with abortion because thats what it causes. You are right to not want an abortion, it is wrong. So definitely have the child if you are in fact pregnant.
Now about keeping it. If you think that you can and will be able to rise the child then keep it. You don't have to give it up for adoption. You should only do that if you are absolutely sure you can't rise the child. Since you aren't, consider keeping the child. Now if you keep the child, bare in mind it won't be easy.
What you also need to consider is if your partner there will be a good father. If you think he can't be (which he probably can't) then don't be afraid to rise the child on your own. Giving your child the best father possible is your responsiblity now, not your parents and definitely not his parents. If he's not it then don't let him be.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (20 January 2008):
 Your mum and his mum will handle it. You don't have to worry. They will think what is best for you . Talk to your mum if you are unsure instead of worrying over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 January 2008): When was it that you had sex? Did you know about the morning-after pill? This can only be used within 72hours to have an affect. You should do whatever is best for you. I know that having an abortion doesn't seem like the right thing to do but if you don't want a baby or can't bring the baby up then you probably should consider having an abortion. Have you actually took a pregnancy test yet? I wouldn't start to panic until you take a pregnancy test. I think they are free from your doctor or you could buy one from the chemists. Hope this helps and that you do the right thing.
Bex x
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