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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi ive been speaking to my ex bf for most of the day today trying to help sort out his problms with things anyway one of the last conversations we had i asked him if he felt any better he replyed yes as ive talked to you, i asked him again and he said having someone to talk to.Anyway during the end of the conversation he said im so going to shag you, i was shocked he said this as he wanted to split up with me, i asked him when and he said it will be a surprise and will just bring it up.The thing is hes kinda seeing the girl he split up with me for but hes having really big problams with her at the moment.What do you think i should do i still care for him a lot and would shag him if he was serious, he said he was serious Does anyone else think he was serious hes never really said that before
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reader, fluffyshoes +, writes (29 October 2008):
I think that if he was serious he would have finished with this other girl and taken time to get his head together before approaching you.
If it is just the physical act you are both after then maybe he was serious but if you are thinking in terms of a relationship with this man again I would think about what you want and what your boundaries are before taking anything further and be clear on what his intentions are.
It is not fair of him to yo-yo between two women which ever is the easiest to talk to and be with at the time.
I would think about what you want, I understand you still care for him but be sure he knows what you want and that he is willing to fulfil it before being with him. He left you for this woman, now he is having a bad time with her and now wants to have sex with you but not necessarily a relationship.
Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it to me, be careful you do not get hurt again. Be straight with him about what you want and see what he says.
Take care x
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