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writes:Should I stay or go?I have been in a relationship with my partner for nearly two years. To begin with our relationship was great he really showed he cared and took the time out always made me happy...Now things have changed, he is distant and doesn't make much effort he doesn't make me feel special and loved. I have been so scared lately that makes me act all crazy we have been fighting so much over stupid things but its because of me I dont know what to do, I just want him to love me in return. We had a major fight last night, both pushed each other to the edge and said bad things. He was the first person to say he loved me but last night he said he didnt and wanted to have to right to say it to you when the time was right for me but you kind of blackmail me emotionally and force me to say it... it must come in its natural time not forced from him to me but i took that away from him, didnt give him a chance to say it.I really love him but I'm so scared and don't know what to do, he did say love takes time but if he doesn't love me now will he ever?What should I do? He wants to give things a go and work on it. I need advice please xxx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): thanks for the replies. i must say sisnce he told me that i feel so upset and hurt i dont even really want to talk to him. what do i do to get him to love me again and have the interest he once had in me?
can i ask something else what is love?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2009): ok tricky one.
i think you have had a warning as he - sounds like you both want to give it a go, so...try.
what you need to do is calm down a little and talk to him. not pressure him. Equally he should spend time with you and be attentive.
I would try and make sure you see other people and spend time sepearetly. if after a few months have a grown up talk and see where you are. Get him to say how he feels if the answer is no, then move on and find someone who is more into you.
The good news is he thinks the two of you are worth a try.
point of note; who says they love the other one first is crap. either you love the person or you don't. It does not give you mystic powers over them, it does not make them weak for saying it first. If anything it makes them stronger.
Star.x.
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