A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i like this guy. we know each other since childhood. but he treats me more like a friend / sister .. he likes me, cares for me etc . . everything a guy can do make a girl feel spl. however, when I confessed that I have feelings for him he said that he only likes me like a friend/ sister (sister because I'm 5yrs younger to him and he has treated me like a little girl since childhood)but I'm totally in love with him for the way he treats me and makes me feel. I wanna be with him for ever and make him feel the same way he makes me feel. the understanding and chemistry by the way us is amazing. however he said that he doesn't feel tht way for me and the he will never feel so. how can he be so strong and firm about hw he feels. specially abt the future. (it all it helps we both are taurus)could there be some reason he is denying his feelings?or is there a possibility tht he hasn't realized what he feels is love and that he could realize the same with time. or is it really possible tht a frnd can make you feel so spl, care for u, be there for you no matter what, insist on you sharing your thoughts and confusions, inspire you ? and it still couldn't mean LOVEhe calls me almost everyday even after I confessed my feelings for him.Pls help. is there a possibility he could start liking me? if so should I do something for it or it will jus happen if it has to ? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyeah .. I stronglu believe and feel he loves me/ had feelings for me .. but, what i don't understand is, why did he deny his feelings when I told him how I felt abt him. also when I asked him if I could discuss it (that I love him and why he doesn't) further, he said:"do u really wanna have this conversation? .. I don't want you to pull the strings further that it breaks and everything falls apart. I don't wanna feel uncomfortable next time when I meet U. so just drop the ball and move on!I like you a lot and adore you and this will remain the same forever and will never change! .."so when asked him how can he be so sure and that things might change and he may develop feelings in the future. he said: "I know myself and how i feel and this will remain the same forever" .. :(however he continues to talk me and talk to me like nothing has ever happened .. good for me .. :) that he is not mad at me .. what I fail to understand is if this happened to me, unless and until im interested in that person, i would never ever talk to them after such an incident and will moreover try to ignore them.so is he still calling me cos he has feelings for me or he generally care for me and thtz why he is calling me ? plz help! ..
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): u know my gf, calling me brother at the begining and i was much teased with it when she was calling me. one day i wrote her an sms and told her " i don't see u as a sister, i love u so much and God swear have nothing bad in heart for u. love is a pure entity which rare people know about it. i have lots of feelings, love and affection for u and even don't expect same from u. i don't care which kind of feelings u have about me. i know u will show my sms to everyone, will make me a joke to ur friends, telling everyone that he loves me. i don't care what u will say on back of me. i said what i wanted and don't care about the consequences."
after that sms she stoped calling me brother and after one month almost she felt same for me and now she is even more crazy for me than me. she tells me that i don't know what u have done on me. to cut the story short, i will say that it is u to express him repeatedly how much u love him. love creates love and after sometime u will see the changes. it is human nature that create love for other if they love him/her.
best of luck.
...............................
A
male
reader, dirtball  +, writes (25 February 2011):
 That's a BIG piece of this puzzle.
Most people in their right mind don't want to start a long distance relationship. They are simply too difficult. That could be a major driving force in his decision to only want to be friends.
I'm glad you've heard from him again.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh! I didn't mention in my question .. we stay in two different countries .. :-|So calling is the only option .. and yeah by the way he called now .. :)
...............................
A
female
reader, littleconfused +, writes (24 February 2011):
Like more than friends interaction. More flirting or touch, if he allows you to.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@littleconfused: different ways of interaction as in ?? can U elaborate ? . .
now he didnt call me for two days .. I hope he is not avoiding me ...
this did happen once/twice before .. but if he doesnt call for another two days thn I guess things ll get clear .. right nw im lilttle confused! ;)
...............................
A
female
reader, littleconfused +, writes (24 February 2011):
I think there is still a possible for a turn. (Or I am looking for a turn myself for my own "friendship")
Is there anything he did that makes you feel he loves you more than a friend?
NOTHING IS FOR CERTAIN. its not like you guys are related by blood.
I feel like, if you do different ways of interactions...he might see you in a different way. Sometimes things are all about timing.
good luck!
...............................
A
male
reader, dirtball +, writes (23 February 2011):
Anything is possible, but some things just aren't probable. This is one of those that will not likely happen for you.
He probably does love you, but like he told you, it's on a friend/sisterly level. When someone loves you like that, the idea of a romantic relationship is out of the question. It's just too weird.
If it were going to happen, it would have already. Chances are, there was a time he was wanting a romantic engagement with you, but he's since worked past it. You two probably missed your moment.
I'm not saying it will never happen, but you shouldn't wait around for it to happen either.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): He maybe likes you as a friend...if he doesnt have siblings, then maybe thats why he treats you like a sister....I have friends that I really care for, and I know sometimes they think I love them, but no, is only that I just see them as friends and ppl I can trust...maybe he can be denying what he feels for you, but, I dont think he is.. but it also could be that he hasnt realized that what he feels is love, but remember that he maybe loves you as a friend an nothing more....the only thing that I can tell you, is either wait or move on...and if you really think that something can happen between you, I would recommend you to take things slow, but be you, dont try to please him in every way, because it wont work out...maybe stop talking to him for sometime...maybe that way, he will realize that he loves you as a girl not as a sister/friend....
...............................
|
