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writes:please help! ive been with my guy for 8 months tomorrow, and he was like anyone is at first in a relationship - caring, loving, sweet, generous etc. etc. but now hes changed quite a bit, he does have a full-time job, but he was working over time when we first started out, but now hes quite snappy and bad-tempered, im not blaming tiredness due to his work as like he sed about what he was working wen we first started out, but hes just left home and got his own flat but im not blaming that either as hes been like this since chrismas.help me, as i love him more that everyone could love everyone else so i dont want to end this relationship, please help me save it Reply to this Question
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reader, binhquangdao  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 first talk to him and tell straight up you will leave if he does not realize what's he doing to you. two support him if he needs it and three tell you love you.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 April 2008):
 You can walk that extra mile or bend as far back to breaking point for him as you can.
But if his love for you has died, it is very difficult to revive this relationship.
You need to accept reality .If you have reached that stage,
you need to be strong and not cling on to a one sided love affair.
Give him some space because it could be winter at his place.
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reader, liltinky24 +, writes (16 April 2008):
Hey, wow i'm the first to reply lolz. Its sounds like your boyfriend is upset and angered by something. or maybe he is going through a hard time. The fact that he was loving caring etc at the start of the relationship means that he does like you. However it looks like somehwere along the way something has started to push him away.
Its ok to be worried about this but try not to be too scared. these things usually sort out but it takes some effort ofcourse. What you need to do now is think in the past and see whether its after a certain incident that hes started to push you away. Possibly a fight maybe?
Second you need to talk to him face to face. By your letter it sounds like you havent talked much through this. You need to talk to him and find out whats going through his head. Make sure your not angry or excited when he tells you even if its pointed at you. try to see where you can resolve the situation.
the fact that he has moved into a new flat means he wanst his space. because its after christmas maybe you can ask him about whether something happend during christmas thats just got worse. Make sure that he knows that your willing to get through this.
If all else fails then try to move on. I know you think you really love him but if he is not willing to come back then ist simply not meant to be.
best of luck i'm sure things will look brighter for you soon!!
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