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writes:I have been married for more than 10 years like 2 years ago I started going to topless bars with my husband we even had one of the girls do a dance for us, actually she was all over me more than him (which he loved) After that we also made his fantasy true of being with 2 women, one of them was me, of course (I don't mind to please him in that sense). I won't be the one proposing it but I rather give him a very good sexy and passionate night than go again and fullfill his fantasy again. We had done it like 4 times already and he keeps insisting on it but I don't want to. I would love to please him but I can't What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): sadly, if this pattern continues you will not be enough for him. nip this in the bud in the early stages. tell him how you feel. eventually he may betray you because he now has the taste of the "other exciting lifestyle" . you made his fantasy come true so far, but he wants this fantasy a constant relaity. very dangerous ground. but he is selfish, it's all about pleasing you.
when couples introduce others into their sex life it borders on infedility especially when 1 partner is not 100% into it.
if he is into threesome, how about you requesting 2 males (1 obviously him), see if he agrees. if not, then you know. he wants you to share him but will not share you.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (25 March 2009):
 You need to tell him how you feel, that having another woman invovled is fine once or twice, maybe even jsut on special occassions, but YOU are the main woman in his life. Tell him that at the end of the day, it should always jsut be you and him.
If he just doesn't comprehend this reasoning, then maybe you should look into marriage counseling to have a mmore open and moderated forum to talk about your needs and expectations in this marriage. But he needs to be more sensitive to your feelings in the matter.
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