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writes: Okay - here is my issue.I really like this friend of mine, James. I have for years but for various reasons have never acted on it, partly is that he was a few years older. I wanted to make sure that I really had feelings for him before I acted, and thirdly, part of that time I was dating someone else but he is long gone and I find myself even more attracted to James.Anyway, I have been getting up the courage to act on it - none of our mutual friends know that I like him -when the other day all our mates were all at a bar and we were laughing and kidding around and generally having fun. We were talking about setting up some friends of ours when and one of the guys was lamenting that he couldn't find a girlfriend when one of the guys commented to James "why don't you have a girlfriend mate?" and he replied "I choose not to have one - things are just so busy at the moment with work". I was a bit crushed - I know his work is particularly crazy at the moment and will settle down, but not for many months. What do I do? I was so ready to talk to him but now I'm really confused about what to do about it! Do I talk to him and suggest when things die down at his work that I would like to date him or should I just wait and see? I like him so much - I have never had a crush like this on any one else and I'm scared that I will miss my chance with him. Any advice/suggestions greatly appreciated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): Its possible it was just an excuse...but it doesnt sound like it. Well either way, I would wait on him. Wait a little bit and hint around asking him how everything is. And he mentions busy a lot, dont do it. But if he seems fine, then thats when to ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2006): Its possible it was just an excuse...but it doesnt sound like it. Well either way, I would wait on him. Wait a little bit and hint around asking him how everything is. And he mentions busy a lot, dont do it. But if he seems fine, then thats when to ask him.
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reader, beenthere +, writes (20 February 2006):
you could ask him anyway. i have known guys who say they are too busy for a girlfriend but then they find someone like 5 minutes after they've said it. providing you understand that he is busy at work and may not have loads of time for you, it can work out if he's interested. he obviously has time to go out as mates so why not as a couple? saying that, don't be disappointed if he does turn you down, he may genuinely believe he has no time for a girlfriend.
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