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writes:Im 19 and will be turning 20 pretty soon and ive never had sex and have only been kissed once. It isn't that i want to rush sex or anything and i don't want to do it for the sake of it but at times its very tempting because at my age my sex drive is through the roof and it becomes border line unbearable. The worst part is that masturbation which used to keep it in check only satisfies my craving for maybe if im lucky for an hour then i start to feel immense cravings again. Im so tired of having these craving i would be so much happier if i could just do it and get it out of my system, or just turn the urges off for until they are needed but alas that's not possible. The problem being is im pretty sure if i just have sex with someone i dont care about ill be an emotional mess afterward and regret it. Even as a male ive sorta always wanted my first time to be with someone i actually care about and not just some random women that wants me to drill her and nothing more. This probably roots from me never having a long relationship ever. What do i do to make my urges go away or become less intense ?PS: Cold showers dont work very well for me temporary fix as well.
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reader, empty-1 +, writes (23 January 2010):
Ben there - I feel for ya
I can tell you, though, that you are absoloutely right, that just hopping in the sack for the sake of doing so is not likely to be at all helpful.
Even if you aren't an emotional mess afterwards (I was) it won't keep you satisfied for much longer than just masturbating would...
Try taking your time... I mean REALLY taking your time masturbating sometime. work yourself up over the course of a good four hours before you let yourself finish. After four hours or so, bring yourself to the edge, and back off before orgasm. Do that four or five times before finally pushing yourself over the top.
Then go get a cold shower as soon as you're done.
That should keep things bearable for awhile.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 January 2010): It might benefit you to work out at a gym and really tire yourself out, that way whilst at the gym you're too busy working out to think about your urges and when you get home you'll be tired and just want to sit down and have a rest.
You're right to wait for someone special, nothing is better than sharing it with someone you really love and care for.
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