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writes:I found out that a girl a like also likes me. Were meeting to watch film. I wanna kiss her but don't know how. Please help. Can I hold her hand? I want go take it nice Nd slow for her Reply to this Question
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reader, scythe  +, writes (2 February 2008):
 Sounds great :) I'm all supportive of taking it slow.
You might want to get together a little earlier before the movie and get a drink and just sit and chat for a while. Get to know her.
During the movie, don't talk unless it's necessary because it will just be annoying. Unless the cinema is empty. Maybe 30mins into the movie, rest your elbow over her arm rest, and see if your arms touch. Even just leaning on each others shoulders is nice (unless you can't see the movie properly). Also, touching knees is subtle yet nice. Maybe extend your hand down the arm rest and see if she wants to hold it.
Personally, I don't adivse you to kiss during the movie. Afterwards, when you are leaving, when you say goodbye is a traditional time. No snogging! Well.. not unless she initiates it! Snogging her silly on your first date is a bit too fast. When you say goodbye just kinda place your hand on her shoulder as if to hug her and gently kiss her on the lips/cheek with your mouth closed. Don't hang around her face unless she kisses you back. Just a nice simply goodbye kiss.
But - remember - this is just my opinion from what I've experienced. Your date may call for something totally different. Just go with the flow and do what feels right at the time. And enjoy yourself!
Good luck! Tell us how it goes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): Holding her hand sounds really nice. If you're meeting up at the actual cinema, you could walk up to her and just smile nicely, keeping eye contact. When you're waiting in the queue for your ticket, you could gently make your hand touch hers, and then gradually move to holding it. Ask her if she's ok, or how she is, and make her feel cared about. You don't need to be too sentimental like I'm making it sound, just make her feel comfortable with you before moving in to kiss her.
You should watch the movie for half an hour or so, and then turn to look at her. If she looks back at you, smile, and then carry on watching the film for a few minutes. Maybe then you could look back at her, and hold her eye contact, and slowly tilt your head and move in to kiss her. She needs time to think, and decide what to do, so do this slowly. When your face is getting closer to hers, close your eyes and kiss her softly.
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