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anonymous
writes:I've been having some dreams recently, well, more often I should say. It's usually with me and a girl, but the significant part of the dream is the action the girl takes. Holding my hand, laying her head on my shoulder, holding me tightly. It's these moments that I am surged with feelings. I can't describe it, but I love the feeling every time. I seem to wake up not long after, and still feel that strong feeling as if it were real. I know it's just a dream, but is it really a bad thing to hold on to these feelings as long as I can? Sometimes, the girl is a former crush or just some girl I cannot identify. In any case, as much as I love these dreams, reality can take a hit at me. I just want to stop these dreams because they have become frequent as of late. Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): I can also relate to this sort of expreience. It really delt me a cruel blow. My advice to you is to remember that they are merely dreams! Take no action based on them, and afford them no signifigance whatsoever! But the best advice is to get lucky - stumble upon a wonderful girl and experience a pleasant fling.
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (18 September 2011):
It is very unhealthy to be holding on to those feelings. Believe me, I know. Then to wake up to reality is a serious bite in the arse. You cannot simply wish or push dreams away. I suggest you seek for a dream therapist. No one here can really help me.
If you are not fond of the idea of getting thearpy, how about working for an actual relationship? I am sure you can find a girl like the one you described. Give it some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2011): I've had this kind of thing happen to me too. Maybe you are lonely? Maybe you don't get enough touch (hugs, hand holding, back rubs) in real life? Sorry I don't have any good advice for you. But you're not alone.
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