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writes:Hi.I recently just ended a five year relationship that has been dying for a long time, we still see eachother every day because really were more friends than anything. And I want to start dating but Im scared to hurt her and I dont want to lie to her either.We've talked about seeing other people but I still don't know how without hurting her and I feel like shouldnt have to feel guilty but I still do.
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reader, Drew21 +, writes (21 July 2011):
 I think you're right. You shouldn't feel guilty. You have to move on, and she has to move on. The only way that's gonna happen is by...moving on.
She may be hurt in the beginning, or be a bit jealous, but i think that's natural, especially for such a long relationship and especially if you were the one that finally ended things.
Why do you see her every day, still? Is it a school thing?
Really, i don't see that it's really any of her business whether you date or no, but if you are concerned about not wanting to surprise her or hurt her, then i would just tell her straight up. Say "listen, i just want you to know.. I'm strongly considering dating again. I don't want to hurt you in any way, but this is the next step I have to take to move on from our relationship."
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