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writes:I lived with 3 girls this past year at college. One of which I had previously lived with and two of which I had not. Throughout most of the year I could feel the 3 of them bonding more with each other than with me. At first it didn't bother me. Later on I started realizing that my other friends (who didn't live with us) were bonding with the 3 of them more as well. That's when it became more painfully obvious then ever. One of my downfalls is that I box everything up inside until I reach my breaking point. Having said that, the 4 of us had a falling out and I am no longer going to be living with them. We managed to leave for summer vacation on a friendly note however as the time is approaching to go back to school and face them living together, without me, again I am worried. The roommate who I had lived with previously is one of my closest friends at school. However, I now feel like she won't want to hang out with me since I won't be in the room right next to her. How do I tell her that I feel replaced? I am not very good at confrontations (especially emotional ones) but I know that it has to happen. I want our friendship to stay the same or get stronger, not deteriorate completely. =/
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2010): It might be a good idea to talk with your friend and let her know how you feel. Perhaps the 3 of them had more classes together or have the same major, so this may be why they spent more time with one another. If they still don't include you in plans, it might be best to check out the activities going on around your campus. Get involved and you'll meet new people in no time. Good luck!
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