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female
age
30-35,
*loveyou123
writes:I met a guy 4 months ago and we are physically intimate and have not talked about exclusivity. We don't talk everyday but we have seen each other steady, once a week. In the beginning I solely wanted to just hook up because there was a strong physical attraction that I couldn't resist, but now I see potential in him being someone I want to have a relationship with. I am pondering a few things. Either if I should casually bring up 'where we stand'.. If I should stop being physically intimate with him and see what he does.. or If I should wait until he asks me out? I just need guidance on what the smartest thing I should do, If i want things to work out in my favor.Thanks guys! Reply to this Question
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reader, CJH  +, writes (25 January 2011):
 I feel so sorry for you. In my day it was pretty much a given that once you had slept with somebody you were exclusive - although it was never cast in stone, it was mostly the case.
So. You know what you want from the guy anyway? Why not just tell him then? Theres no shame in wanting something solid and the only way to be sure about what he`s thinking IS to communicate.
Its 2011 so its perfectly ok for girls to ask guys out these days ;)
Stop worrying about this and go ahead and make the first move. The alternative is to sit and wait and wait and wait for him to rasie the subject which may never happen if he doesnt realise he has a proper chance of being with you.
I hope this helps.
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