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writes:My ex and I had a rocky last few weeks and finally broke up but the thing is either of us cant live without each other. He is in denial of love while I am in love with him. After a week of not being together we agreed on being just friends and see what happens. He still wants me to be his date for prom and we are still talking and acting like a couple but are status is "just talking". I just feel weird about this. Like I miss being his girlfriend and being able to kiss him and hold his hand other wise everything is the same. I want to move on and see whats outside his world. Can we be just friends after the breakup ?
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (26 April 2009):
 I have been in this situation. My ex-bf wanted to go from being an item, and being an intimate couple, to just being friends. He wanted to do everything we had been doing, dating etc, going out, dvd nights in, but without the kissing, hugging, and sexual contact, as there was another girl he liked, and didnt want to scare her off by being intimate with me. I found this very difficult, as all I wanted to do was kiss him and touch him. In the end it got too much for me - I still loved him, and the thought of him getting intimate with someone else, made me into an emotional mess. I had to end it to preserve my own sanity. I made a clean break, and it was the best thing for me.
I agree with the other posters, you need to think about yourself xxx good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2009): You can be friends at some point.. but i think he should let you cool off for a while first. IT will be very difficult for you to move on if you and he are still talking all the time. Take time to yourself, go to prom with someone else, and tell him that since you still feel the way you used to about him and he doesn't, that you need time to get over it all before you can be friends and hopefuly he will understand.
But i don't think there is any reason to cut him out compeltely, so as soon as you feel you can deal with it again, let him back in.
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