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writes:when i was of 7 years i liked a girl we were good friends and we liked to spend time with each other i used to watch bollywood films a lot we lived in hostel i started realising that i love her we bunked yoga classes and we just spent time with each other whenever we could i told my friends about that but i had a fight with a friend then he just went to that girl and then said this thing to her in a bad way that i love her and then she started hating me she ignored me and doesnt even talked to meafter a year due to some reasons i changed the school and when i was 13 i came back to that school i saw her remembered my past and then again started loving her after a few months but she still hates and ignores me a lot. i want a way to make her love with me she is a nice girl and i just cant live without her..please help me.. Reply to this Question
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reader, JDinCali  +, writes (2 March 2011):
 You can't make someone love you, but you can do some verbal judo ...(come to think of it, that's a book). http://www.amazon.com/Verbal-Judo-Gentle-Art-Persuasion/dp/0688137865
Anyway,...try to get her alone; while you're both walking to go somewhere, but not around a big group of her friends. Kindly ask her(with a smile) why she hates you. It's a question that involves some explaining, not a simple "Yes" or "No" answer. ;)
"Hate" is a big word and most people will defend themselves against having it. So, after she explains then, you can fit-in how you feel about her and leave it at that. End it with "I'm here if you need me... I've always been here for you." ...let her think about that till the next day.
Gentle persistence is the key. Be sweet, non intrusive and always positive. Humor is a good way to break the ice.
Hope all goes well.
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