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writes: My ex-girlfriend and I broke up back in August. I took it really hard, even though we only went out for a month. She went away for a month after that, and then when she came back, we hooked up twice. Now it's about 5 months later, and we haven't hooked up or anything since August. She told me that me and her have gotten really close, and she considers me as a best friend. I got over her for a while, but as i got closer to her, my feelings for her came back, a lot more than they did, even while we were going out. I am positive that I am in love with this girl, but there is no way that I can tell her. It will make things way too complicated for her, since 2 other guys already like her. She comes to me about all of her problems, and I talk to her about everything. I am 16 years old, and still a virgin. I want to lose my virginity before the end of 11th grade, but I don't want to lose it to anyone else but her, and I am so scared to tell her that. And I'm not using our friendship to get sex from her, I wouldn't do that, the thing is, I think she would consider it if I asked her, but I am so scared to ask. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2006): Hi anon, You Love her and thats why you want to sleep with her,
but think about it this way afterwords you would not have the Love with it on her part, maybe she loves you as a person but shes not "in love" which is very important, but she does not want to be with you at the moment, sleeping with someone is a big step that should be part of a commited relationship because you wouldent want to leave her after that would you?
It will only cause hurt for both of you, especially you because she broke up with you, and she'll be seeing other guy's after shes took this big step with you,
Its not that important to lose your virginity,You are best doing it in a commited relationship where your loved,
I would not ask you Ex to do this Take care hop this has helped you Ditzy-Blonde :)
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (27 October 2006):
 why dont you just wait untill you find someone else whats the rush? you broke up for a reasonand its only gunna hurt even more if youhave sex then she doesnt want to see you no more. i did exactly the same when i was 16 i was absolutly madly in love with my bf and it broke my heart when we finished id known him forever and i wanted him to be the one i lost my virginity to because i was comfortable with him and could say or do anythin without been embaressed. i did end up losing my virginity to him and in the end he was just like a fuck buddy we were best friends that had sex but honestly you will get hurt it all ends in tears coz you have feelings for her and she doesnt feel the same way. i carried on seeing my ex just for sex fora couple of years and believe me it doesnt work it totally ruins your friendship you lose your respect for eachother and you'll get your heart broke. for your own good you need to get over her not be jumpin in bed with her.
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