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writes:I have a friend, and i think he likes me, he really is a nice guy, perfect gentleman and everything, it's just that i am not attracted to him at all. i mean he would be a great boyfriend but i don't see myself with him. and i'm afraid that he might confess, but i just really really want to keep our friendship, and i'm afraid once he does get it out in the open that it will be awkward... what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, twistedelm +, writes (29 May 2009):
Ive never been a woman; but in my experience there are women who who only think about there own feelings and not the guys? Why did you originally date him if you were not physically attracted to him; then or now? If you want to move on; then its only descent to explain to the guy your intentions. This might not be easy but be as honest as you can be--most people dont expect anything more than that.
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reader, NewBeginning +, writes (29 May 2009):
 I think, with my experience in being at the other end of the line.. it just hurts for me as a guy to hear that, especially when u had spent months showing some real love, and the girl accepts everything with the most beautiful smile.. and in the end say.. hey u know what, i just want to be friends with u...
So... I request you, if you have not the slightest intention of falling in love with this guy, or u see it coming, but dont like it that way.. please.. say it outright now, i'm sure thats way better, than seeing him disappointed once he has gathered all the courage he could muster to tell u that he loves you and you reject it.. seriously, i've been in the receiving end, and i really wish she had told me way before i had got all my hopes up..
its like taking someone to the view the beautiful sunset from cliff.. and push them down.. it would simply would have been amazing, if u could have had told them that before u do so... :)
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reader, audie  +, writes (29 May 2009):
 i think it would be best if he let his feelings out, that way u can tell him where you stand and he'll stop harbouring false hope. yes it myt be awkward for a little while but it'll soon be forgotten. imagine what he's going through not knowing exactly how u feel about him. if you dont want him he needs to know so he can get over it and perhaps look elsewhere. just let him down gently and just hope you can still be frends after.xx
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reader, _Tyler +, writes (29 May 2009):
It really depends on the two people, there is really no saying wether it will be awkward or not -if- he does like you and confesses it. The most you can do is sit down and talk to him about how you just want to be friends if he does confess that he likes you.
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