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writes: My daughter's dad beats up his wife, who has become my best friend. My daughter's dad beats up his wife. He's awful to her. He cheats on her, they don't even have a sex life. But she's not allowed to work or even drive their fun new Camaro. She's become my best friend but if he knew, oh my gosh. She never leaves the house unless it's with him. He's bad. He's not active in our daughter's life. That's obviously for the better. And I wonder if there is drugs involved. He's got her so scared and obviously she so caught up she doesn't think nothing of it. It's became the norm. I've tried to tell her it's not ok, her parents hate him and she needs help. What can be done?
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reader, Jadzia1127  +, writes (21 March 2006):
 She has to make the choice to leave, but if she does there are resources that will help her get away and keep you and your daughter safe.
Next time you see her, slip her the number for the Domestic Violence Hot-line. (The number is (800) 799-7233. TTY: (800) 787-3224.) Put it on the back of a fridge magnet or inside a tampon, get creative and put it somewhere he would never look. The only advice to give her is when she is ready to use it don't tell him, just use it.
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reader, aunty.lou +, writes (20 March 2006):
 firstly, yes, its a tricky one, you will remember that your a little close for comfort in this, and if not to protect yourself, your daughter also plays a huge role in this if you get to involved, her protection should be first and for most.
Its not a situation that you are able to 'fix' but support.
support is the main key to unlocking the doors for your friend life to be more for filling, friends are good for saying what they think, so if you feel that she is a prisoner in her own home and running scared, then let her know your thoughts, if they do not have children then this is the time to get out of the relationship before its made worse for not just her but there children too, after all hes not the model father in your eyes or your daughters.
show her there is more to life and life is to short for being afraid to step out of the door, she is free and there may be another life filled with much more just waiting for her.
support her and be there what ever she decides to do, stay out of it, if things effect you further than they already have.
be a friend dont become the victim.
good luck friend,
Aunty Lou.
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