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writes: This is a sexual question...When I think about my future and having sex, I always get the feeling that I'm not going to enjoy it. When I'm in the mood to do something sexual, I usualy finger myself, but it doesn't give me any pleasure at all. I've been fingered by a boy but it really wasn't a nice feeling of pleasure. I feel really lonely and I don't know what to do, I want to enjoy sex when I'm older but I don't think I can, please help!!!!
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reader, NightAngel +, writes (22 October 2005):
 It could be a number of problems, maybe psychological or a bad expeirence. Dont think about it too much, just relax and the feeling will come naturally. You're probally stressed out and are too tense. Its all about the mental image you get when your in the mood. Have fun with it, and just relax! I dont think it will affect your sex life later on in life, so just enjoy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2005): Honey, it's perfectly OK to feel the way that you do. Remember that there are other girls out there who are in the same situation, bud aren't bold enough to voice their concerns - kudos to you because you did, and that's the first step in anything! Dear, sex is a very, very, very special gift. It is meant for a bonding of intimacy between two beings. The reason that you do not feel comfortable with the status of your sex life right now is due to the fact that you simply aren't ready right now. When it is time, you WILL know. And don't worry - there will be a time for you. You are new to this side of yourself, and it is OK to feel insecure, confused, or even angry at yourself because you can't rightly put a finger on the reason why of anything. You'll be fine! I encourage you to discover yourself in ways that you have never done before. And give it time, everything takes time. Just remember, it took God 7 days to create the earth and the universe and all that is in it; you can't do everything in one day.
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