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writes:I recently cheated on my girlfriend of 5yrs. no sex involved just kissing once at a bar and then she came over to my house the next night.my gf found out after i had lied about it because i was to afraid to hurt her and tell her what i had done. it has been a month sense the incident and we remain friends and i try to keep my distance and give her space which seems to be helping. my question is how do i gain her trust back? do i keep giving her space or is it making her get over me faster? how do you "show" her how sorry and promise that it will never happen again? she says she will never be able to be with me again but would like it if we were able to be friends? does she mean this and can i change this? i love her very much and want to gain her trust and love back.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (4 April 2010):
Consider yourself lucky that your girlfriend is dumb enough to want to still be friends with you after what you did. If you loved her so much and didn't want to lose her, then shouldn't you have thought about that before you made out with some girl and brought her home? I guess you don't know what you have until it's gone?
In my opinion, if she still wants to be "friends" she's probably willing to let you back in her life slowly. If you want to prove anything to her and that you won't do it again (which is hard to believe) then you basically have to be her bitch for all eternity because she will probably never trust you going out to the bar again or going out of town with your buddies. So figure out if that's something that you really want because apparently this other girl you met at the bar was worth screwing up your relationship for.
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