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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Husband is a sales man. Goes out at least once or twice a week at 630am gets back well after 6pm. Other days it could be 8am or 830am he goes out gets back around 515pm. i wonder how he does it going out at 630am like he will be tomorrow, said he as a sales meeting so he as to go because he as to be somewhere. Im seeking work at the moment and my life is so boring dull and miserable. I seek excitement but i know i wont get it. I see him going out each week and going to different places and he says hes going to the same places but at least he isnt in one place all the time like me. He seems happy to get out at the crack of dawn week in week out wheres i dread everyday wanting to find a new life for myself and to feel fulfilled but i feel it will hever happen. My life is the same day in day out and i live for the weekends to get away for a couple of hours to go for a long walk somewhere nice, i go with hubby. We used to walk together in the week but we don't anymore, he gets home its dark so doesn't want to go back out even thou we can walk around the block as its lit up but we end up just going at the weekend instead. I go for walks by myself in the week to get out of the house. Do other people get fed up even if working of doing the same thing week in week out or is it just me. I want to break out of this rut and seek a better life and i dont know were to begin. I have no friends, two of my children are away at uni one left at home in college. Im 45 been a mother far to long, dont know who i am and where my life as gone. I feel im no good for anything and to thick to learn. Reply to this Question
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reader, Denizen +, writes (10 November 2015):
 It sounds like you are depressed, and this is certainly the time of year when many feel this way. Go and see your GP, get some CBT counselling and start working on filling your life with things you want to do.
Buy a notebook and every day write down 10 good things that have happened to you. They might be as simple as a blue sky or a smile from a stranger. You need some activities too. Volunteering has proven beneficial effects on health and mental welfare. Also classes in which you are using your right brain will help. And you get to meet different people and maybe make new friends. It's a lovely journey - get on it.
You need to be responsible for you. You may not change your husband's life but you can change yours.
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