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writes: I'm writing cause I'm very confused. I have been seeing a beautiful woman for over 2 years. I have fell in love with her very much and she does love me. We had a relationship but we had trouble with it and we have taken some time away from each other. We worked things out and I want to get back together but she says she is not ready for a relationship. She has had a hard childhood and a bad marriage and is having a hard time getting close to men even tho we were close before. She is seeing a doctor to help her but I don't know what to do. I want to give her time - but i miss her.. can you please help
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reader, juliagulia  +, writes (15 March 2006):
 You can't crowd her when she says she needs space and she isn't ready. You have to respect her feelings and give her some time to sort them out. If she is getting help for her issues, then she has taken a step in the right direction. All you can do is let her know that you would like to be with her, but you respect her enough to let her have some time to think it over. She will let you know when she is ready to start up again. In the meantime, just try to focus on other aspects of your life - friends, work, hobbies, etc. to pass the time. Check in with her every once in a while (no more than once a week or so) just to let her know you care about her and you are there for her as a friend and more when she is ready. Good luck!
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