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anonymous
writes:I have this desperate need/desire/urge to be loved by a male. I am always looking for the approval from amles, but never females. I always feel like I have to be in a relationship. I just want to feel loved, accepted, cared for by a male. I want the unconditional love I never got from my father. My father was so cold growing up and although I dont really feel like I missed out on much not having a father who was there for me emotionally, I have this strong need to be loved by a male, but not my father, just any other male. How do I cope with this? I feel like its driving me crazy. Anyone else ever felt the same way? Reply to this Question
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help  +, writes (4 April 2008):
 you may not think it but what you crave is because your dad never gave you the love and affection and let me guess because you have this coutinue disare to be loved you always get the guys that end up treating you like shit anyway.its because u give off this fib that says to men im easy come and get me you don't even relaise you are doing it and you don't mean to, its ur desire to be told that you are worth it and you like your hugs to feel protected something a father should of done to his daughter when she was young. Before you can help yourself you must sort out why you desire it, and than work on that, is it because all your friends have boyfriends is it because of the media and the way the protray couples or really is it to fill that emputness you feel and need to keep fillin because of your father.
seeing someone to talk to like a counsellor, i found that the reason why i enjoyed flirting is because that way i got attendation and i loved my hugs people got the wrong idea of me but in a way i knew what i was doing was making boys think i was easy and also to fill the emputness i had from my real dad than my step-dad having two affairs than the endless promises that men made but i kept going back for more each time i was getting hurt till enough was enough and now i am in a relationship well i am treated gd its been 6months my longerest relationshp and i feel so sexy and yes he is a bit of a bad boy but only coz his a guy and acting like the tough guy but really underneth he is just wants love like i do and we help eachother. u will soon have that and trust me you will enjoy it and its not because it to fill emputness but because you feel like you desire it and u let it come to you instead of you seeking it and looking despreate.
I wish you the best of luck xxxxxxx love nicky xxxxxxxxxx
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male
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): WOW! I've known several women who totally felt like you.
You have some deep seated issues that you need resolved, before it causes you personal desstruction. I feel for you and hope you get these issues resolved, because many men will take advantage of this and "use" you.
Please get some type of help and counseling.
BadVoice
Wash.DC
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