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I want sex, just not with my boyfriend!

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Question - (16 August 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 17 August 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 36-40, anonymous writes:

im a 24 year old female, who LOVES sex, but recently i have lost my sex drive with my boyfriend of 3 years, i dont understand it. I still want sex and have fantasies but when it comes down to it, i can take it or leave it (sometimes i think its troublesome, even though ive spent the day fantasizing about it). I often fantasize about other people (just thinking, never acting). I dont understand what has happened. ive never gone off sex before. i dont know what to do, does this mean i dont love anymore? My boyfriend is my best friend and my lover.... but recently the latter part doesnt exist!! any advice???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2008):

it comes in phases, but i seem to have lost my orgasm with him too, i really want to orgasm but it doesnt happen (again, never a problem before). I dont understand. Saleem, i understand your girlfriend... its really not my boyfriend "fault" i love him to bits and i dont want someone else. Its really confusing. I wonder if anyone has ever felt like this, is it time to call it quits? but ive thought about leaving, but i really really dont think i can. why is this happening?!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008):

how long has this been going on? If it was recently, maybe it's just a phase. There are periods when I don't find my boyfriend attractive, and he's gone a week or two without wanting to touch me but it always comes back around to having great sex every night.

As far as thinking about others, I don't see anything wrong with that if you can still get turned on thinking about him.

If you think it's more serious, then investigate into what the cause might be. Are there any problems with the relationship? Do you see a future with him?

It could also just be hormonal.

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A male reader, Saleem Trinidad and Tobago +, writes (16 August 2008):

presently my gf of 6months is not interested in sex with me anymore..

i dont know if she wants it from anyone else but she told me a couple times that she doesnt want anyone else and that its a problem with her but i dunno...

Anyway, if you figure out how to get over this please let us know..i want my gf to get over this soon..

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