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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Dear CupidI have been in an 'implied' dating relationship with a guy for six months. Initially, we were just 'kicking it' but now we behave like people in a relationship without actually saying we're in a relationship. The problem is every time he feels we are getting closer he says we should 'disengage'. I dont know whether he's scared or what. As a result we have broken up over 10 or so times, lasting for a maximum of 1 week and a minimum of a couple of hours. But we somehow eventually gravitate towards each other. He says he isnt over his ex-girlfriend who still calls and they still see each other from time to time and as such we cant have a relationship.I want out. How do I end this cycle?
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reader, Blonde68  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Sorry to hear you are having a tough time of it at the moment.
It doesn't actually help that he isn't over his ex yet which is obviously having a huge impact on your relationship with him.
I suggest you tell him that you think it would be a good idea to give him some time to get over his ex since he has openly admitted to still having feelings for her. It is never a good idea to jump from one relationship into another, we all need time out to clear our heads and recover.
Don't suggest a break, because that doesn't work, you will end up contacting each other or wondering if you are together when you are not... You need to end it completely. With time you will heal hun.. we all do! x
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reader, cassiecmc  +, writes (7 February 2011):
Tell him. It's not fair for you to just be there when it's convenient for him.
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