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*ola1002
writes:i love my boyfriends's attention and he loves mine too, i give him a lot of attention, he does too. but sometimes he doesn't at all and i feel lonely. I want to get over this and be independent. I want him to be needing my attention more, not the other way round... Reply to this Question
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (29 April 2011):
 What you seem to be saying is that your BF is all you do.So when you don't have him, you're bored out of your tree.Education, Employment, hobbies, GF's, family, pets.. etc.I totally understand the he's my all and everything stuff, we're all guilty of it. So instead of going all psycho and building a wall collage of him in your bedroom, as Captain Kirk said to his trekies, "get a life"Go where no chick has gone before, adventure into the unknown.Do something ELSE...
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reader, lola1002 +, writes (28 April 2011):
lola1002 is verified as being by the original poster of the question The feelings are related,thanks
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 Could these feelings have anything to do with this: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-wanted-to-become-celibate-but-my-boyfriend.html
If you can manage to be more independent, he will likely start longing for more attention from you. Don't play games. They aren't good for a relationship.
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reader, Harrow85 +, writes (28 April 2011):
 maybe putting more in your life will stop the problem maybe taking up a new hobbie so your busyer, when he feels like your moving on, if he loves you, that will scare him, and he will come running back giving all the attention i hope this helps, my love lifes not great at the mo to, i like attention but shes fell out of love with me again i to need to be more independant and am trying to change my life stle to better myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Then tell him nicely the specific things you want him to do to show you attention... not like "I want you to do this and that" but "I really like it when you..." Or do something different and fun without him and tell him all about it. This little reminder of other interesting dimensions in your life might pique his attention.
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