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writes:Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly four months now, i know, it dosent sound long at all, but ive known the guy for about a year and i feel alot for him. Ive just noticed that he's not the most affectionate guy in the world. He never just randomly kisses me when were out in public, or come behind me and hugs me.The past relationships ive had they've been very affectionate, so im not really used to this.Recently at a party i was at, everyone dispursed and went to sleep, considering it was around five o clock in the morning, and he didnt even come and sleep in the same room as me, never mind the same bed, but the same room! he left me alone by myself.Just little things about him have been bugging me, and i dont really know what to do, i feel like im stuck.i feel like hes ashamed to show that he's with me, he wont tell his parents about me, and makes sure i wont say anything to them. My friends have told me that this is a huge issue, and its getting to the point where i feel like is it worth going on?I crave affection from him, when its just me and him, which it rarely is, its great, hes very loving.And when i recently mentioned all this to him saying he treats me more like a friend he was shocked, and put it asside and act like there was nothing up at all, i feel like hes not taking my feelings into account. I dont know what to do, please please please help me. x Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 November 2009):
You could try just starting light, such as holding hands and occasionally hugging when there are to many people looking. He might open up at bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou so much, i will be trying this as soon as.
i do belive he's just one of them guys that dont like affection as much, i suppose its just one of them things ill have to live with unless he's willing to change for me.
thanks again :)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 November 2009):
You need to ask him why he's like that. Some guys find it very hard to show affection. The fact that he won't tell his parents suggest that there is something that's getting to him. And the only way to find out is to ask him gently about why he doesn't seem all that affectionate to you.
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