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writes:Simple question and may sound ridiculous men, but i want an honest answer please.Firstly, I know that every guy is different in what they like....What i want to know is if you were at the gym and you noticed a girl, what would she do that would grab your attention more and make you more attracted to her? Or what would it be that she does, that would make you go out of your way and go over and talk to her?I'm asking this because I've noticed this guy at my gym who i catch staring at me. So i know he has noticed me and I can't say i'm definitely sure yet, but he does seem interested.. it's hard to put into words how. Anyways, what i want to know is how can attract him more and get him to talk to me first? Don't say the obvious answer 'go talk to him' because at this gym everyone is pretty much to themselves. And honestly, I'd rather not walk up making it obvious i like him and look stupid having something pointless/stupid to say. Not a good first impression! Anyways, if anyone has any advice on this let me know! Thankssss :) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha the last bit made me laugh, thanks for the 'Cerberus'... You're right about him thinking the same as me and meeting half way. Stupidly enough i didn't think of that! I'll give what you said a go and if he responds great, if not then i move on!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011): Okay let me get this straight, you want a guy to come over and talk to you without making it obvious you're interested in him, in a place where people keep to themselves? Why would he want to do that?
You see you want him to something you're not willing to do so it's unlikely anything is going to happen. He too knows the gym is where people keep to themselves so why would he go over to you?
Firstly there's nothing that would make me go over to a girl in the gym other than if it was obvious she was interested. It's a bit creepy because put simply you don't want the girl to think you're staring at her while she's getting all hot and sweaty, feeling your eyes on the back of head when she's exercising.
OP you're looking for the guy to do all the work here but you have to meet him half way. If you don't then most likely nothing is going to happen. You see the only things that would make a guy "have to" go over and talk to a girl in the gym is if she showed interest.
Next time you see him looking at you smile at him, go over to the machine next to the one he's working out at and say hi or say hello next time you pass him.
If you don't show interest he's not going to do anything. Oh and by the way, staring at girls in the gym is normal. We guys check out any hot girl in the gym but we rarely approach them unless we see a sign of interest. I mean why would we? There are so many fit and pretty girls at the gym that we can just go for the ones we know are interested, we can wait to catch a girl looking at us a lot or a girl that says hello to us. You have to open that door if you want him to walk inside. This isn't the movies OP where you can just put on a certain shade of lipstick and magically the guy is going to find you irresistible.
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