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writes:I dated a guy for a few weeks last year but he felt it was too soon for us to begin a relationship so soon after the break up of our long-term relationships with other people. His decision not to move forward with our relationship really hurt me as we have known each other for a very long time. Subsequently I didn’t see this guy or contact him for a few months.Then we started bumping into each other and more recently we seem to be becoming friends but I still really want something more. Every time I see him though I find myself saying how glad I am that we’re friends and how I’m only interested in just friendship. He never says the same back to me; in fact he usually doesn’t say anything at all to this. The truth is that I want more than friendship but I’m scared of saying so incase it’s not what he wants. I’m unsure now if he is spending time with me because he is still interested in something more, or because I have convinced him I am happy with just friendship and so he now feels more comfortable in my company.I want him to know that I would like a relationship with him but I don’t want to scare him away. Does anyone have any suggestions how I can approach this or should I just leave things as they are? I would rather settle for friendship than nothing at all as he means a lot to me as a person. Reply to this Question
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reader, Johnnyboy03  +, writes (15 March 2009):
 You have put yourself in a sticky situation. That is one of the problems with dating friends.
I wouldn't come right out and tell him you want more then friendship at this point. Your best bet is just to just meet up with him sometime. Like ask him to come over for dinner, or go out or something, and then flirt with him. Be coy, play it close. Don't be too over the top. If he flirts back, turn it up a little.
I'd keep this up until you are certain he wants more then friendship, and for god's sake, stop telling him you only want to be friends with him! lol.
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