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writes:My uncle always told me "Think With The Right Head". Today I didn't. Ok so its been a long time since ive been close to a girl and i miss that feeling. and then today me and my friend were hanging out. I originally planned to give her something but we ended up hanging out for a few hours. For some reason I got the weirdest urge to test out my "skills" if you will. so I got her to kiss me. she said she wanted to so we did. she then revelaed she has never been kissed before. a few hours later, I FEEL SO GUILTY! Im NOT the guy who uses girls for benefits and here i have! its killing me, i mean shes alright and i suppose i would date her but i dont truly like her like that. and now im not sure what to do. or if i should tell my other female friends who will definatly see me as some manwhore type dude.help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 May 2008): I know you're young and you think you "used" her. But no, you didn't. It's just a kiss. You'll know what really using a girl is in several years. Don't do it, it makes women hate you. But some women use men too. People are just selfish, it's life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): I agree with the below answer, and you sound like a decent guy to me or this wouldn't be bothering you. It may be your first mistake with the ladies, but I assure you it won't be the last! We all make mistakes and it is how we learn from them that matters.
You might feel bad in the way you treated this girl, but what is so much worse is if you continue making the same mistake again and again. I think like you've already seen, when you are dealing with another human being you have to take in consideration how they will feel whenever you have any kind of relationship with them, whether it is a sexual relationship or even just a friendship.
I am sure you will be able to get out of this situation by going with what you feel is right, go with that gut feeling inside, your inner wisdom. And good luck for the future :)
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reader, Lily Moll +, writes (11 May 2008):
Well, the fact that you realize what you did was wrong and that you feel bad about it indicates that you're a good guy who maybe just got caught up in the moment. People learn by making mistakes. It could have been worse.. it could have been a lot more than a kiss, and then imagine how that girl would feel? Anyway, as it is, just let her know that you like her as a friend, and that you got caught up in the moment.. or phrase it however you like. But don't go out with her out of some feeling of obligation. She might be hurt a little now, but you both deserve to go out with people you really like "like that." And as for telling your other female friends, if they are truly your friends, and you are going to them and being honest about your feelings, they shouldn't judge you. They might be able to help you work things out, or give you more specific advice about this person.
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